Life has a way of throwing us curveballs. Life happens, catching us off guard and knocking us down hard on our backsides. Sigh. It isn’t fun! In fact, sometimes the throes of this life can be overwhelming. How do you keep a positive attitude when life throws a curveball? Coping becomes a real challenge.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer once wrote, “Time is lost when we have not lived a full human life, time unenriched by experience, creative endeavour, enjoyment, and suffering.” That leads us to point #1 – Expect Suffering. Don’t live in fear of it or sabotage life to create it. But realistically, we are all going to suffer/go through times of suffering. If we expect it as part of the human experience and see value in it as a shaping force, it becomes less of a dread.
You can’t choose your circumstances but Point #2 – You Can Choose Your Attitude. How you view life is crucial and ultimately determines how you will feel about it. We see this time and time again where a person has survived unthinkable things and yet they are smiling and content. They have reached the developmental stage of integrity vs. despair. We also see the flip side of this when someone is just plain cranky and mean — they are living out the ‘despair’ part. Often this brings about a victim mentality. You may experience a victimization but you don’t have to stay there. Move from victim to survivor to conqueror.