Many people are quick to stuff their emotions or deny them. Sometimes this is a long standing behaviour, a habit that a person has developed or a defence mechanism. I’ve even heard people say ‘if I were to ever go there I would lose it!’ Indeed, that is what a person may feel like if they have stuffed their emotions/feelings for a long time. This is actually a misbelief about how feelings work and it keeps people from moving through these pile-ups toward healing and freedom. Let’s look at some of the negatives that come from stuffing emotions or denying them.
Dealing with your emotions is not a scary as you think. Nor is it pointless or a waste of time. Emotions are a hard-wired reaction to what is happening in us and around us — we can’t not feel! The emotions serve an essential role in keeping us emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually healthy. They give us information about what our valid needs are so that we can meet them more effectively. For example, anger lets us know when we are being violated in some way. Anger can also give us strength to face something difficult. Fear can spark courage and potentially save our life. Loneliness prompts us to reach out and get connection. Sadness lets us know that we need some comfort. Don’t get me wrong, feelings are not meant to drive! They are just feelings. But they are meant to give us information and help us navigate life. Consider them. Don’t judge them as being stupid or silly. Just notice them. Validate them. You can learn how to recognize and regulate your emotions. Doing so helps you to become more balanced, healthy and well.
Many people are quick to stuff their emotions or deny them. Sometimes this is a long standing behaviour, a habit that a person has developed or a defence mechanism. I’ve even heard people say ‘if I were to ever go there I would lose it!’ Indeed, that is what a person may feel like if…Continue reading →
Ever found yourself singing along to a song you didn’t even realize you knew the words to? We have an amazing ability to retain what we hear throughout the day. Songs. Words. Messages. If the messages are positive then we tend to feel pretty good and our mood is pleasant.If the monologue (or dialogue) is…Continue reading →
Holiday Seasonal Affective Disorder for real?? Okay no but you may feel like it’s real! After all the symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) are having less energy, trouble concentrating, poor sleep, fatigue, greater appetite/weight gain, etc. It sounds like it just might fit for this Holiday Season too! (By the way, I am not…Continue reading →
Words are so powerful! Whether we speak them to others or run them over and over in our head, what we tell ourselves affects how we feel and what we believe. If we hear the words again and again, or the messages they represent, we can end up rutting on those thoughts and believing them…Continue reading →
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, is a fairly well-known condition in our world, yet some people go through horrific things and don’t develop PTSD. What makes something more likely to be traumatic or give us trauma symptoms? Why can thousands of people go to combat but only a portion of them return with full-blown trauma…Continue reading →
Life has a way of throwing us curveballs. Life happens, catching us off guard and knocking us down hard on our backsides. Sigh. It isn’t fun! In fact, sometimes the throes of this life can be overwhelming. How do you keep a positive attitude when life throws a curveball? Coping becomes a real challenge. Dietrich…Continue reading →
Eating when I’m not even hungry any more! This blog is dedicated to a question sent in from one of our subscribers about over eating: “What is the reasoning behind the need to finish something so it is gone? As in this evening I found a half box of cookies and needed to finish it…Continue reading →
Marriages are under attack! It’s hard enough keeping a relationship healthy and strong without the many pressures that face us in this society. Let’s take a look at FIVE top issues that impact marriages today and some ideas on how to defend your relationship. Busyness. When someone asks you how you are doing, does the…Continue reading →
Sometimes the Christmas/holiday season is not a festive time for some people. People struggling with eating disorders and addiction find this season especially triggering and difficult. People who have gone through a major loss or facing a tough season of life, find that the celebratory parts of the season reinforce loneliness, loss and sadness. So…Continue reading →
We are so pleased to see our practice grow over the past year and a half. Last summer, we had Dr. Cath Thorlakson, Registered Psychologist and Cathy Murray, Master’s Level Social Worker and Therapist join us. As the year has gone by, there has been an increased need for counselling and to bring another Therapist…Continue reading →