Have you been dealt some unfair blows lately? Has your life been impacted by grief and loss? Has trauma blown your life apart? If you answered ‘yes’ to one or more of these questions you have been through hard things. This also verifies that you CAN do hard things. It’s almost a year since my Dad passed away from pancreatic cancer. That was a hard thing. Watching him deteriorate, go in to hospice and die was one of the hardest times I’ve gone through. During such times we can wonder if we’ll make it through. Or whether or not we can cope with all the things that are going on in our lives during such a time. It’s often the layers of stress, grief, fear, sadness, trauma, etc. that push us into points of overwhelm.
The very fact you are reading this tells me something about you. You are a survivor. I know that because you’re still here and you’re reading this post. Therefore, you can do hard things. You already have. Hard things aren’t easy, in fact they pretty much suck! No one wants to do hard things or go through hard times. But to know that we can — that we are capable is huge. It might be messy. We may not like how we got through it. Don’t disempower yourself by ‘can’t-ing.’ “I can’t do this! I can’t keep living like this…” Are you doing it? Are you continuing to live through it? If so, then you CAN do it because you ARE, it’s just ridiculously hard…or you hate it or (fill in the blank_______________).
Sometimes we just need to know that we have what it takes to get through the difficult stuff. We CAN do hard things! If we don’t believe that fact we are prone to sabotage ourselves. You’ve got this! You have grit. Guts. Will.
What we tell ourselves matters. A lot! It’s not just positive thinking it’s literally the pathway on which our brain runs. Are you going to drive in the rut that says negative, sabotaging statements? OR are you going to drive in the rut that says positive, helpful and effective statements? For example, ‘I can do hard things.’
As we head toward the one year mark of my Dad’s death, I feel grief and sadness because I miss him. It’s not the same without him. I’ve gone through a lot these past two years and it has impacted me. Yet, I am healing. I can do hard things. And so can you.
Have you been dealt some unfair blows lately? Has your life been impacted by grief and loss? Has trauma blown your life apart? If you answered ‘yes’ to one or more of these questions you have been through hard things. This also verifies that you CAN do hard things. It’s almost a year since my…Continue reading →
We all felt a certain amount of anxiety when the COVID 19 pandemic started. So many unknowns were infiltrating our lives. What was going to happen next? What if… Now that we are in a less restricted phase of pandemic response, many people are still finding they continue to have higher degrees of anxiety than…Continue reading →
Many of us were shocked and distressed to learn of the death of Naomi Judd one day before her induction into the Country Music Hall of Fame. To quote her daughters Wynonna and Ashley “We lost our beautiful mother to the disease of mental illness.” Mental illness can be lethal. We don’t often hear mental illness…Continue reading →
It’s interesting how many people have a workout program for their bodies but no focus on managing their mind. Why is it that we can prioritize physical fitness and not mental fitness? In her book, “Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess” Dr. Caroline Leaf presents five steps to change and improve the health of your mind….Continue reading →
Although this is known to be a joyous season it doesn’t mean that it is. The Holidays can cause a sore spot to fester even more. Perhaps you are experiencing grief or loss, or enduring a time of illness/chronic pain. You might be walking through a time of broken dreams or fractured relationships. These points…Continue reading →
I keep hearing about people having ‘impostor syndrome.’ I guess it’s become a thing. Actually it was first referenced in 1978 followed by research done in 1985 by Dr. Pauline Rose Clance and the first measurement scale: the Clance impostor phenomenon scale (CIP). The scale measured impostor syndrome across six dimensions: The impostor cycle The…Continue reading →