Restrictions, lockdowns, frustrations galore…but you know what? I can do this because I am! This is a statement I learned many years ago during my Graduate Studies. I hit points of utter exhaustion and discouragement where I thought ‘I can’t keep doing this!’ As I spilled this out to my mentor she looked me in the eye and challenged me. (Which by the way, is not what I was hoping for! I was thinking some nice sympathy — a hug and maybe even a Starbucks gift card for my troubles!) But no, she just said “You can’t?” I felt a little perturbed. What part of this very short statement was she not understanding? I repeated myself, “I can’t do this,” adding in a deep sigh for dramatic effect. “And yet you are” she smiled warmly with incredible grace in her eyes. This is where I learned an incredibly helpful life lesson. It was desperately hard. I was fatigued and sick physically. My energy levels were depleted and yet here I was — getting it done, one. long. day. at. a. time.
See, the truth was, “I can do it because I am.” It’s not pretty. It’s not fun. In fact, I was hating it on some days. But the encouraging truth tucked into the centre of my life was that I was actually doing it! I felt like I couldn’t, which was absolutely fair and accurate. But I could do it because I was.
Let those words sink in. “I can do this because I am.” You may need to validate all the emotions surrounding it. You may not feel like doing it or that it is even possible. But take heart — you can do this, because you are.
Be encouraged. Take heart. Have hope. You can do this. You are doing this.
Restrictions, lockdowns, frustrations galore…but you know what? I can do this because I am! This is a statement I learned many years ago during my Graduate Studies. I hit points of utter exhaustion and discouragement where I thought ‘I can’t keep doing this!’ As I spilled this out to my mentor she looked me in…Continue reading →
In most eating disorders there is a pendulum that swings from restriction (not eating enough) to binging (eating a large quantity of food in a short period of time). Although there is no simple quick fix to breaking this cycle, there are some practical tips that can help you eradicate the restrict/binge cycle. People often…Continue reading →
We are very pleased to welcome Annika Schaefer to our Fresh Hope Counselling team. With all the stress, uncertainty and struggles intensified by the pandemic, requests for counselling help have increased significantly. We want to be able to help meet the needs of those who are struggling. In order to do so, we are expanding…Continue reading →
Retirement is a definite transition time, especially in the age of COVID-19 and it’s impact on social interactions. When you have worked most of your adult life, the work you do often becomes a big determinant of your identity. You’re the Truck Driver, Doctor, Financial Advisor, Teacher, Admin. Assistant who works for… It can be…Continue reading →
Most of us are glad to see 2020 coming to an end! This has been quite the year — full of unpredictable dynamics and lots of things that have been, or at least felt, out of our control. For some people it has even resurrected trauma. As we consider why that is, the theme of…Continue reading →
Healthy habits and daily rituals are two ways to help overcome emotional/mindless/stress eating. Unfortunately the term ‘healthy’ has even become an eating disordered term on some occasions. Foods are not inherently good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, etc. Healthy habits however (say that ten times really quickly) are helpful. Here are a list of multiple…Continue reading →